Periods & Hayfever

Dear Doctor, 

Just a couple of things.

I've had an anti hayfever injection for the last 5 years in Fife. I move to Dundee and am told it doesn't exist. I know it exists cos I've been jabbed with it - don't tell me it doesn't exist cos I know it does and I understand a lot more than just the stories from the round window with Little Ted.

To add insult to injury, I was told at my last Depo appointment (in Dundee funnily enough) that the Depo wasn't being provided anymore cos of Osteoperosis. WTF - I'd have that over the other things any day. If my bones crumble and snap, it would be less painful than what I have when my periods are not controlled.

I had my first period when I was 9 (I think - was at my Gran's and I remember crying a lot). I had my first proper period when I was 12. I became regular when I was 15 - my mum took me to the docs. I have had problems forever. When I have a period, I'm on for 2 weeks and off for 2 days then back on for two weeks. I never get a break and I'm anaemic and ill the whole time. Without the Depo I have a period pretty much all month, every month. I slowly bleed to death. It also means I'm a murderous psychopath for most of the month.

I understand all the drama surrounding the Depo injection because I've been getting it every 12 weeks for the last 10 years. You (who is 'you') now say it's unsafe and I might get osteoporosis. But, here's the deal:

• without this medication my body can't actually cope with periods - maybe it means I'm less of a woman, I don't really give a fuck. What I am telling you is, without this medication, I am more likely to kill, frequently.
• without the jag, at period time, I will bleed more than a stuck pig and will need medication for anaemia, I will also need state help to pay for the number of tampons and winged pads I will need. At my worst I go through a 32 pack of Superplus every 1.5 days.
• without this medication I get pains worse than labour pains (I suspect) and often collapse in a heap whilst at the shops.
• I can NEVER go horse riding or windsurfing without this injection - they don't make pants big enough to hold the 'blood soaker uppers' I need them to hold. If you are a woman you will understand - imagine having your period every single day of your life. That is what my life will be if the Depo is removed from GP surgeries.

DEPO for me is the last resort - my problem is so bad that facing osteoperosis in my old age is a preferable solution.

Don't let a bunch of men in suits make this decision...

Also, give me back my hayfever injection you horrid people...otherwise, I have eyes like this all summer:

When Should I Report My Rape?

When it's right for you...

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Jimmy Saville, Gary Glitter, Rolf Harris...

...The list goes on.

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I've never met any of them, although I did write to Jimmy once. I now know why he prob didn't respond - 'too busy with other matters'.

I am a rape survivor and since all this has come out about our 'treasured' TV folks, I've been asked if it makes me want to officially report my rape more than before?

The answer - NO.

I understand that my rapist may well have raped again. I understand that my rapist may well be panicking in case I say something. I also understand that I may mean nothing to my rapist and he may be living his life in peaceful bliss. However, I do hope that he has a daughter.  I do hope that he looks at her every day and prays that she doesn't meet a man like him on her travels. I hope he experiences that pain and dread. Every. Single. Day.

Nothing I do right now will change what happened back then but it WILL change what happens now.

I am in the midst of a 4 year degree - do I really need to be involved in a rape trial?

I have just gotten over (grammar) a hideous divorce and the bankruptcy following that divorce - do I really need a rape trial?

I am, finally, not a basket case - do I really need to be involved in a rape trial?

I am counselling a young rape survivor right now and I haven't advised that she go to the police. I have let her know that it is an option but in her fragile state, a police investigation would be horrific for her.

I think that the more people who understand rape from the 'victim and/or survivor' point of view we have, the better off we will be.

A trial is not the be all and end all. It's like a death in the family. It is something that happens TO YOU. You can't control it, you can't stop it. It just happens.

Rape is about control so all you can do is take that control back.

I may report my rapist when it is the right time for me. I am not waiting for him to become rich or famous, I am merely waiting for me. 

There is no statute on rape. He knows it's coming but it will be when I am ready, not him. This is not about 'waiting to get him at his most expensive/vulnerable/famous' this is about reporting it when it is right for me. I may never report it. Our school reunion could be interesting though...

Most people who legislate about rape have never experienced it and have never had a daughter/niece/sister/mother/brother/son/nephew/in-law who has been a victim/survivor - what the hell do they know?

I have taken back the control.

Control of THIS situation is all I have.

Another Mentalist Wants to Marry Me After Sending 3 PM's Through Facebook...

Him
Hello,you have a wonderful look of which i would love to be your very good friend and know you better,please if you do not mind telling me much of yourself. Have a nice day , Waits for your reply.

Me
Who are you?

Him
Thank you for your respond and i am happy having you as my friend,i am 51 years old,I came from SIMI Valley California and work as UN peace keeping committee under assignment here in Afghanistan and i was leading troops of 3rd infantry in Syria,please i want to know are you married, what is your job,and your age?take care.

Me
You're 51. No way Jose.

Him
I re-visited your profile today; your profile is good and so interested. I love it. I have to admit that you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. You are so beautiful. I have some questions I want to ask you? Have you ever really love a man? To understand him, know him in any thought. See inside. Hear every dream, and give him wings when he wants to fly. To tell him that it's going to last forever. I want you to answer the questions above. I would like to see your question and to see how much love you have for your loved ones. I will tell you more about myself in my next email Take good care of yourself and have a nice day. With love

Me
I have answered your questions in the order they were posted:

You: I re-visited your profile today; your profile is good and so interested. I love it.
Me: Thank you but I have to wonder what you gained from my profile as it’s pretty private?

You: I have to admit that you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.
Me:    Thank you, have you never seen Cameron Diaz?

You:    You are so beautiful.
Me:    Thank you. Have you never seen Penelope Cruz?

You:    I have some questions I want to ask you? Have you ever really love a man?
Me:    Love a man? Well yes I have but it ended badly when he told me he used to be a woman and that his penis was fake

You:    To understand him, know him in any thought.
Me:    I’m not sure I will ever understand men, except that they mostly like beer and boobs.

You:    See inside. Hear every dream, and give him wings when he wants to fly.
Me:    I did cast a spell on a guy once, in the hope that he would fly away. I didn’t work and he plummeted from the building. Sad day.

You:    To tell him that it's going to last forever.
Me:    Hey, who am I to promise ‘lasting forever’I can’t keep a mint plant alive.

You:    I want you to answer the questions above. I think I have. I would like to see your question and to see how much love you have for your loved ones.
Me:    I have much love for my loved ones. You aren’t one of them, obviously.

You:    I will tell you more about myself in my next email
Me:    Okay, can’t wait.

Me
Have you ever loved a woman so much that she is screaming in silence fast on her feet ready to run from you?

Him
I just have to tell you a little about myself, if not for other things but for the efforts you have made in giving me a good feeling of love this few time we have spent together. I’ve turned to look for a partner, because this is the 3rd year since i divorce my wife, and i thought i can be able to live the rest without woman, but as the days passes by, i understand the need for me to have another woman to share my love with, well i am very new on the search but i haven’t yet met someone who has really fulfilled my expectations. I am from America but right now I am still in Afghanistan and I am 51 years old and i am divorce, I have a daughter. I’m not searching for adventures or games, on the contrary, I hope to find that special person in you, and someone with whom I can create the family I’ve always wanted and spend the rest of my life with. Therefore, I sincerely look forward to becoming a proof that this type of meeting possibility really works and changes our lives. As regards my family, i am the only son child of my parents and i have only one sister is just two of us, and my sister who is taking care of my daughter now both my parents are dead. I have a daughter named DORA and she is 13 years old, my wife divorced since 2010. Actually I enter face book because I am searching for a wife and because I want to marry outside my country so that I will learn a different culture and customs. But because my job so I don’t not have time to travel out until my assignment in Afghanistan, so I decided to use this media searching a good, lovely and honest caring wife and I promised my daughter that I must get a wife and step mother for her this year As I told you I am looking for a wife, I sincerely want to tell you that since I see your picture in the face book my heart really accepted you and good feelings I have for you never go away from me and it may sound funny to tell you this but honestly I think I am in love with you and would want to have you as my wife because am falling in love with you. Please let me know if you will be ready to spend the rest of your life with me and if you’re ready to be a mother of my child? With love.

Me
Well, I'm barren but I'd like to know more about your plans. Do you have a big penis? That's a deal breaker for me. Less than 6 inches doesn't interest me.

Him
My dearest, I am so happy reading your message and I also thank the Almighty God who has made it possible for two of us to meet and with the oath I took as a soldier to defend my country I uphold the same oath to you to love and care for you and protect you with my life and the last drop of my blood. Actually like I told you in my previous message my assignment will finish soon and I will be going back to my country and I have planning to come visit you in your country by end of next month so that we will do the marriage and other things and after that we will live together as one family. please I have something very important to discuss and do with you but I want to know something CAN I TRUST YOU? The thing I want to discuss with you is my life so if you assure me of your trust I will tell you details.

Me
I'm gutted that you're a bot :-(